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know how to become famous and rich. Success seems to be this elusive,
unidentified object that is always a little bit out of reach. You keep on running
and all the time they change the place of the goal.
Just when you think
you are on the finish line some a…..e just erases it and draws a new one.
New exam, new competition, new goal, new limit. This is frustrating,
here you are ripping your hair out, because nothing you do seems to be enough.
And the simple answer is…. it isn’t and it NEVER will be. Because, if you ask
others what your success should be, they will always answer how they think
their success should be, or what they have been told, their success should be.
So number one goal, for YOUR success, is to figure out what it is for you.
I’ve watched a lot of interviews of successful people and
most of them have this recipe for success.
Overcome obstacles
and push yourself to be better
Be passionate
about something to the point it is almost an obsession
Help others
Have fun with it
Constantly grow
and know thy self.
The Entrepreneur has a similar list to this. It goes like
this:
Create often
Understand self
Have fun
Suspend judgments
Seek challenges
Pursue meaning
Make change work
for you
Develop resilience
Constantly improve
Why are these things that make people generally happy and
successful? I would see this as the affects of the Hierarchy of Needs that
Maslow has coined in a paper he wrote in 1943. The hierarchy goes in a shape of
a pyramid, having the most basic needs for survival on the bottom, as a
foundation and getting more into the details of human fulfillment as we go up
to the point of the pyramid.
The construction is as follows:
Physiological
needs: food, water, warmth, rest etc.
Safety needs:
Security and safety
Belonging and
love: intimate relationships, friends
Esteem needs:
Prestige and feeling of accomplishment
Achieving one’s
full potential, including creative activities
What is my point with this? We often try to skip ahead on
this pyramid. Obviously biologically we must take into account our need for
food and safety, but what about love? Friends? Quite often when we speak of
people who are monetarily successful, we hear of their break ups, hard
marriages and so on.
Often we are ready to compromise our relationships for
money, and that in the end is what makes us ultimately fail. I also believe
that we forget how much we love effort. Not too much effort. But just enough
that we can feel proud in our achievements. This is why often someone who what
the lottery and has nothing to do except burn money will find themselves
depressed. They aren’t actualizing themselves.
Other people’s idea of success:
I asked on my Facebook page couple of days ago, what is
success to others. Of course doing things that are fun and well also having
monetary success came through. This all in my opinion ties in quite nicely with
this idea of hierarchy of needs. We want to help others, because it gives us
the feeling of belonging and love, it helps give others security.
We need the money in order to take care of Physiological
needs, but it also often shows directly how much effort we have put into our
work. A lot of answers to my positive surprise did realize that this money as a
measure of success in the end isn’t that valuable.
My Idea of success
I see success as overcoming hardships and figuring things
out. Living a life full of experiences and being surrounded by people that I
love and care about. It is definitely full of laughter and sparks of
inspiration. (This is why I write the blog) But there is still a lot of answers
regarding success that I am missing. I am not quite sure yet what else I want
to do apart writing my blog, if we think as a job.
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